To All the Moms Going Back to School Today: You Can Feel it All and Still Be a Good Mom
My oldest is going to school today from an iPad in our newly created "classroom space." He's thrilled to get an iPad (oh boy...) and to hang out with new friends on Zoom calls, but he's also sad he can't go play on the neighborhood school playground or go into the new building he's dreamed about for the last year. This kid doesn't know a stranger, and yet he's about to sit alone at a desk from 8am-2pm each day.
Let me point one thing out, we chose for him to be in virtual school given the pandemic, even before our school district chose to be fully remote. His little sister is high risk with a rare genetic disorder and his grandmother who lives down the street is severely immunocompromised, but that doesn't mean that my heart isn't breaking to see his first day of school be at home.
Our school has done a phenomenal job making preparations for the online logistics and school supplies, while also finding creative ways to make the unfortunate situation as fun as it can be (like the school mascot waving to kids as we drove through for our virtual learning kits). I'm in no way upset with the decisions that our district has made in terms of how it relates to my family, but I am fully aware that this is not the case for many.
I'm not here to complain or to promote one side of things over the other. I'm just here to tell all the moms: it's okay to feel it all. I don't have a magic wand to fix all the upcoming issues and problems (and I'm not going to sugar coat it, there will be problems). I'd like to encourage everyone to realize that whatever boat you're in, it is real for you and you're allowed to feel however you do about it.
Hey mama, as you start this scary 2020-2021 academic year, just feel all the feels. Let yourself cry, let yourself laugh, let yourself sigh some relief, or let yourself scream into a pillow.
Relieved they're at home? That's okay.
Scared that they're at school? That's okay.
Worried they won't learn enough? That's okay.
Feeling like your situation really sucks? That's okay.
Overwhelmed with how you're going to juggle the work and the school? That's okay.
Feeling a million other rollercoaster of feelings? That's okay, too.
Stress is subjective. It's feeling that you don't have the resources to deal with whatever situation is in front of you. Your situation and my situation may not look alike, but we are all moms. We can feel all the feels in our own ways and still support each other. We can be an ear to vent to, we can shut down for a day or two, we can do whatever we need... At the end of the day, we will still be a tribe of women who love their kids more than anything in the world and just want to find a way to give them the best in these crazy times.
So laugh, cry, smile, or all of the above today...just hug your kids and be kind to another mother.